So the day after my birthday, gives me time to reflect on past, present and future.
My daughter says…but I always send you flowers and a balloon for your birthday. However, I returned from a visit to her home, where I was taken out for my birthday and received a gift as well, so no, I wondered but did not expect. I also went to visit her and my son, because as they live a distance, I can’t always grasp what is happening through phone calls or a skype call. So who am I? I have learned that I need to feel, experience, see with my own eyes to understand what is happening in my children’s lives. It’s important to me, because I love them, to see them periodically. So moving forward-to learn to ask the right questions, not to be satisfied with answers but to probe more if I don’t understand. So I am still learning and the words back from your children hit you in the face and bring back visual memories and hurts but also joy. So I choose to learn to listen to understand. One of my favorite quotes! I just need to practice and remember.
I moved at the beginning of October 2015. Today is Jan. 7-so Lily and I have been here three months. It has been an interesting transition. Our new housemate is just a bit younger than I am and it was Lily that encouraged this change. What some of us won’t do for our pets.
My new housemate is a dog whisperer and she was able to stop Lily from dragging me around the courtyard, when I was taking her for a walk. So from August of 2014 to today, we have become friends. Someone who loves my dog, is going to be my friend for sure.
We know from our wraparound work that relationships make a huge difference, in a day to day existence. More on that relationship stuff later.